Bridesmaid Expectations: Matron of Honor Duties

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Photo: Bella Baltimore / Dyanna Lamora

Smiling from ear to ear because your sister or bestie just asked you to be her Matron of Honor? As the name suggests, it is an honor to be asked to play such an important role. 

But do you know what it actually means? 

What does a matron of honor do? What will you be responsible for? What are you expected to pay for?

Today, we’re diving deep into what it means to be a matron of honor. Check out this list of matron of honor duties to learn exactly what you need to do before and during your friend’s wedding.

What Is a Matron of Honor?

Wedding Matron of HonorPhoto: Bella Boston / Trailing Twine Photography

A matron of honor is essentially the HBIC (head bridesmaid in charge). The truth is, it’s no different than being the maid of honor. The only distinction is that a matron of honor is a married woman.

A lot of brides have a maid of honor and a matron of honor, and it’s usually because they can’t choose just one friend to be the MOH. As long as one of the bride’s close friends is married, she can easily have two ladies of honor play special roles in her big day.

Not sure if you should have a matron and an MOH? Learn everything you need to know in our ultimate guide on How to Have Two Maids of Honor.

Is the Matron of Honor More Important Than the Maid of Honor?

The matron of honor is no more important (or less important) than the maid of honor. The job is exactly the same — the only real difference is the title.

And while you may not want to share the spotlight with a fellow bridesmaid, the fact is, being a matron of honor alongside a fellow maid of honor actually takes some of the burden off of you.

MOHs have a lot of responsibility, so it’s great having someone to share the workload with!

What Does the Matron of Honor Do?

So what exactly is a matron of honor’s job?

Matron and maid of honor duties include:

  • Lending the bride your ear and being her support system
  • Assisting her if she decides to make DIY wedding favors or decorations
  • Helping her shop for a wedding dress
  • Organizing shopping trips for bridesmaid dresses, shoes, and accessories
  • Helping her choose a flower girl gift, ring bearer gift, and bridesmaid gift for the other members of the bridal party
  • Planning pre-wedding events
  • Acting as the point person for guests on the wedding day 

All of these are duties that the entire bridal party can take part in. However, as matron of honor, you’ll be the one that she relies on the most.

Note: It’s not necessarily the matron of honor’s job to help the bride with wedding planning. Some brides don’t want any help with that part. But, you should be ready to help out in case she asks.

What Events Does the Matron of Honor Host?

Matrons and maids of honor have traditionally been expected to plan certain pre-wedding events, including the bridal shower and the bachelorette party.

And if you’re lucky enough to have a maid of honor by your side, you can split the duties so each of you is responsible for planning one big event.

As a married woman, you might not want to be the one to plan a naughty bachelorette party. And that’s totally understandable — you can handle the bridal shower arrangements and let the maid of honor handle the bachelorette plans.

If you’re expecting a child and will be pregnant during the wedding, check out our collection of maternity bridesmaid dresses!

What Does the Matron of Honor Pay For?

If you’ve ever been part of a wedding party before, you already know that there are quite a few costs you’ll incur. Here’s what matrons of honor can expect to buy and pay for:

  • Your bridesmaid dress and shoes
  • A bridal shower gift
  • A wedding gift
  • A portion of the cost of the bridal shower
  • A portion of the cost of the bachelorette party
  • Travel expenses if the wedding is out of town

The entire bridal party should chip in on the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Unless you’ve got endless dollars to spend, create a budget that the entire bridal party is comfortable with and split the cost amongst the entire group.

Just because you’re the matron of honor doesn’t mean you have to shoulder the entire cost for the events you plan!

Taking the other ‘maids dress shopping? Head to the nearest Bella Bridesmaids location!

What Does the Matron of Honor Do on the Wedding Day?

Bridal party walking behind bride and carrying her dressPhoto: Bella Baton Rouge / Kim Boyd

The bridal shower and bachelorette party are your moments to shine. The better the party, the happier she’ll be that she chose you to take charge of these important events! But your real job is to be her right-hand-woman on the big day.

Here are just a few of the things you should be prepared to do on the wedding day:

  • Keep the bride calm!
  • Be the go-between (along with the best man) for the bride and groom if they plan to send each other love letters or gifts before the wedding ceremony
  • Come prepared with an emergency kit that includes fashion tape, Band-Aids, safety pins, Advil, and other must-haves
  • Hold her bouquet while she says her vows
  • Give a great maid of honor speech at the wedding reception
  • Coordinate the bridesmaids and groomsmen for bridal party photos (check out our Bridesmaid Poses and Camera Tricks article for more info about that).
  • Do anything else she asks you to do, including holding her dress when nature calls!

As a matron of honor, you’ll quickly learn that your duties never end. But that’s what makes it so fun! The bride is relying on you because she knows you can handle it. She knows you’ll do whatever it takes to make her wedding day go off without a hitch.

Our suggestion? Make a checklist of your duties so you don’t miss a beat!


Your work starts as soon as your best friend asks you to be her matron of honor. From shopping for bridesmaid dresses to arranging her train to get those perfect “I Do” photos, your job doesn’t end until the wedding is over.

But guess what? It’s one of the best jobs you’ll ever have!

The most important thing to remember is this:

It’s not just about what you pay for or what type of pre-wedding events you plan. It’s about being there for her. 

So be her support system. Be the shoulder she leans on when wedding planning gets tough. And, most of all, keep reminding her that she’s the most beautiful bride ever!

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