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Congratulations, bride-to-be, you now know what it feels like to be proposed to!
Your happiness is probably contagious, and your closest friends are probably getting excited too. Even if they haven’t mentioned it, they’re definitely dying to know when you’re going to ask them to be bridesmaids!
And since you’re fresh off a proposal, why not spread the love?
Instead of asking your friends to be bridesmaids over the phone or through a text, why not do a mini-proposal of your own?
All you need is a few bridesmaid proposal cards.
Not sure what they are, when to get them, or how to give them out?
Here’s everything you need to know about bridesmaid proposal cards.
Get Your Girls Excited With Bridesmaid Proposal Cards
Bridesmaid proposal cards are basically greeting cards that ask a question like, “Will you be my bridesmaid?”.
They can be funny. They can be sweet and sentimental. They can even be dirty and naughty (if that’s your thing).
There are lots of online card retailers and printers who sell them, and there are hundreds of different options to choose from.
And hey, if you’re feeling crafty, you can break out the watercolors and DIY the cards yourself!
Cards are a fun way to add to the proposal, whether you want to ask one-on-one or gather all of your girls and ask them at the same time.
This is your wedding, so how you do it is 100% up to you!
Where to Get Bridesmaid Proposal Cards
Finding bridesmaid proposal cards is as easy as finding wedding invitations or save-the-dates. You can find pre-printed designs at Etsy, Minted, Zazzle, and Amazon, or customize your own cards on sites like Canva and Shutterfly.
Proposal cards can be formal or informal. It all depends on the vibe of your wedding, how you want to spread the message to your friends, and what kind of reaction you’re looking for.
You can keep it simple and go with a classic “Will you be my bridesmaid?” card. Or, you can make it sweet with a message like, “I can’t say I do without you.”
Feeling silly? Show your sense of humor with a card that says something like, “Will you hold my dress while I pee?”
You can even customize your cards with an inside joke or a personal message for each individual bridesmaid.
And if you’re short on time, don’t worry:
There are plenty of pre-printed cards that you can buy online and have shipped within a day or two!
DIY Them Yourself
In a creative mood?
Here’s how to create DIY cards for your future bridesmaids at home:
Get some heavy cardstock paper and a few metallic pens or colored markers. You can cut the paper into a fun shape, or fold it in half like a traditional card — either way works!
Just write your message on the front or on the inside, and you’re done. Easy peasy.
You can make them all the same or monogram each one with the recipient’s initials.
Want it to match the vibe and theme of your wedding?
If you’re having a lavish fairytale wedding, bling it out with gold foil stickers or rhinestones.
Going for a rustic, boho vibe? Attach a sprig of dried flowers or tie on a burlap bow.
The beauty of DIY is that you can make your cards look any way you like!
When to Send Bridesmaid Proposal Cards
You probably already know that weddings require a lot of planning. There is literally a timeline for everything, and giving out bridesmaid proposal cards is no exception …
But, unlike choosing a venue or deciding who gets to bring a plus-one, this task is not a complicated process.
There are just a few questions to answer before you send out bridesmaid invitations:
1. Who Are Your Bridesmaids Going to Be?
Think about who you really want in your bridal party. If the list is too long, narrow it down until you have the number you want.
2. Where Are You Getting Married?
Know where you’re getting married before you start inviting friends to be in your wedding party. This is especially important if you’re planning to have a destination wedding or need your bridal party to travel.
3. When Are You Getting Married?
Set your wedding date first. Your besties may be willing to go anywhere, anytime to celebrate your wedding day. But some ‘maids might need to know the actual date before they commit to saying yes.
You’ll need to order your bridesmaid dresses about six months before the big day, so it’s best to propose to your girls at least seven or eight months ahead. It might take a few weeks to coordinate a weekend when everyone can go shopping together!
Plus, think about when you want to shop for your own dress. It can be fun to have your bridesmaids with you when you go to pick out the dress of your dreams!
Check out our collection of bridesmaid dresses!
Ask Your Girls in Person
Photo: Kaley Rae Photography/Bella Milwaukee
If you have a bridesmaid who lives out of town that you don’t see often, it’s perfectly okay to mail her a proposal card. But for the friends that you see on a regular basis, it’s definitely best to hand them their cards in person.
You can gather as a group for brunch, for coffee, or drinks and give them their cards at the same time. Or you can do it one-on-one.
If you do it in a group, just make sure that you DON’T do it in front of anyone that’s not being asked. That’s a good way to hurt someone’s feelings, and that’s not the type of bride you’re going to be!
You might want to do the maid of honor proposal separately, too. It’ll make her feel more special, and you’ll avoid the awkwardness of having to “reveal” your choice in front of the rest of the girls.
And don’t forget the flower girl! If you’re including a niece, cousin, or daughter into your ceremony, take the opportunity to bring her out to lunch and ask her if she’d like to be in your wedding. You can even take her dress shopping to get her excited about the big day.
More Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas
Want to take your proposal to the next level? A simple card is all you need, but if you want to go all out, here are some other ways you can propose to your future ‘maids:
- Bridesmaid proposal gift box
- Message in a bottle
- Wine bottle with a custom label
- Bridesmaid bath bomb
- Scratch-off bridal invitations
An in-person, spoken invitation is always the best approach. But a bridesmaid proposal card takes it one step further.
Now that you know how amazing it feels to be proposed to, don’t you want all of your best girls to feel the same way?
The answer is of course!
Because you’re going to be the opposite of a Bridezilla. You’re going to be the best bride ever! And this is just one more way that you get to show that off.